Herbs for love spells should be used wisely. An ethical love spell doesn’t try to force love when the person has already made it clear that they’re not interested. That kind of spell either harms everyone involved, or—more often, thank Goddess—just plain doesn’t work. However, various love spells can help you come across the right person, break down false barriers to affection, bless new relationships, unions, and weddings, discourage quarrels, and reignite love (and lust) in a long-term relationship.
Must-Have Herbs for Love Spells
There are dozens of herbs associated with love magic. Based on effectiveness and (except for the last one) availability, here are my top five recommendations!
Marjoram
Not everyone knows about the magical or metaphysical properties of marjoram, a culinary herb. It’s a favorite for spells to increase love in an existing relationship. You can also use it in recipes for the same purpose or drink marjoram tea. Marjoram is particularly good for improving communication.
Hibiscus
Dried hibiscus flowers are used to make a fruity red caffeine-free herbal “tea” that, when drunk, arouses passion. It’s delicious hot or iced, so might want to make some for you and your lover. It’s perfect for Valentine’s Day! You can buy hibiscus tea in teabags or loose, and you can also use dried hibiscus flowers in love charm bags.
Coriander
Coriander, the spice, is the dried and ground seeds of the coriander plant, called cilantro in the U.S. and Spain. This plant was commonly associated with Venus from at least the early 1500s, but probably earlier. You can use whole coriander seeds or fresh cilantro leaves in a love jar spell, use coriander seeds in a love charm bag, burn coriander seeds in a spell, or cook with coriander or cilantro to induce passion.
Cardamom
The magical properties of cardamom include use as an aphrodisiac. On a practical level, cardamom improves oral health, which is great if you’re going to be doing a lot of kissing. (It’s also been used for centuries to treat digestive issues such as nausea, flatulence, and bloating.) You might like to try making heart-shaped cardamom cookies, or make chicken tikka masala with both cardamom and coriander.
Deerstongue
This is a much rarer herb, but it’s one of the most effective herbs for love I know. I had to include it for anyone who wants to attract men, because that’s what it does. I do not recommend using it when you want to charm a man in any other way except romantically (to make a new friend, or to secure a job or investment, for instance.) Carry it with you, on its own or in a charm bag along with two lodestones, to increase male attention.
Please note that spells for passion and lust are best worked on Tuesdays and spells for affection and love are best worked on Fridays, both during a waxing moon. Monday is also a good day for working a spell to improve or strengthen a long-term romantic relationship. If the moon is in the Crab (Cancer) for a spell to find love, Libra for a spell to strengthen a relationship, or Scorpio for a spell involving passion, so much the better. For a spell to guard against lovers’ quarrels, choose a Monday or a Friday on a waning moon.
Lavender and basil are two of many other herbs that have been used for centuries in love spells. Personally, I prefer to use lavender for relaxation rituals and basil for abundance spells, and they’ve been used for those purposes for a long time, too. If either of these feels right to you for a romance spell, though, give it a try.
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Questions? Comments?
If there are other herbs for love that you’d like to recommend, or you’d like some advice in how to use one in a spell, please comment below! Thank you so much for visiting today, and threefold blessings.
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